Do you want to feel super confident and sail through life with ease, doing the things YOU want to do? I know I do and I can honestly say that being confident is definitely at the top of my list.
We all suffer from a lack of confidence at some time in our life (this is perfectly normal by the way) and whether it’s long-term or short-term, it can be a real bugbear and hold you back from following your dreams.
That’s why today I’m going to share some practical ways to boost your self-confidence, ways that have helped ME to improve my own self-confidence. First though, let’s get clear on what self-confidence actually is and what factors may affect it.
What is self-confidence?
Self-confidence is the belief you have in yourself and your own abilities. Being self-confident has huge benefits and can make such a difference to your life. This is mainly because with confidence you have the courage to try new things, take chances and feel positive about a successful outcome. Success makes you feel GOOD about yourself which in turn effects your level of self-esteem (self-esteem is the opinion you have of yourself) and feelings of self-worth.
I think we can all think of someone we aspire to who has bucket loads of confidence, both in real life and in fiction. James Bond springs to mind! Now he oozes confidence, no matter what obstacles he faces he can get past it because he believes he can.
So what affects self-confidence?
There are many things that can knock our self-confidence and tons of reasons why we often find ourselves hiding in the corner. Here are just a few:
- Our beliefs – Sometimes we hold a belief about ourselves that may not be true. For example not being able to ride a bicycle or writing an article or book. In truth we might have fallen off a bicycle in the past and held onto the belief that we can’t do it. Or someone might have told you that you’re not very good at writing and that’s what you still believe. It’s surprising how many limiting beliefs we have, this is because our thoughts and beliefs are often on a subconscious level. So next time you think you CAN’T do something, ask yourself – CAN I?
- Fear of rejection – Have you ever wanted to ask for something you want or need and the fear of rejection (what if they say NO) has held you back?
- Fear of making a mistake – This is a common one! I think we’re all frightened of looking silly and making mistakes. We don’t want to draw attention to ourselves for all the wrong reasons do we? The thing to remember is that everyone makes mistakes, we are only human and it’s how we learn and grow. Even the most confident and successful people have fears and insecurities.
- Feeling self-conscious – Have you ever walked into a crowded room and felt as though everyone is looking at you? Yes me too! Or have you had to say something in a meeting or make a presentation when really all you want to do is HIDE under the table …. OR you end up talking gibberish? Yes, feeling self-conscious is a biggie.
These are are only a few factors that stop us from feeling confident. Did any resonate with you? The thing to remember is that it’s good for you to recognize and accept how you feel. It’s okay to feel this way. Though you CAN make changes to improve your levels of self-confidence if you wish.
Here are a few helpful ways to boost your self-confidence.
Ways to boost self-confidence.
- Dress to impress – Dress nicely. Wear something that you love and makes you feel good, style your hair and splash on your favourite perfume or aftershave. It’s amazing how confident you feel when you know you look good. I work from home during the day with only my dogs for company but I always put my lippy on – it makes me feel GOOD!
- Breathe – When you’re feeling self-conscious, your heart is racing and you have those familiar butterflies in your tum. Take a few moments to centre yourself and BREATHE. Take in a nice deep breath and exhale. This can be very calming and have the immediate effect of slowing your heart rate.
- Good posture – When we’re not feeling very confident we tend to look at the floor and avert our gaze. Standing tall with your head up and shoulders back can help you to FEEL proud and confident. Other people will see you as a confident person and approachable too.
- Be prepared – Whether it’s a presentation, exam or asking for a raise, preparation is key. Practice what you’re going to say beforehand with friends and family or even in front of the mirror. The more prepared you are the more confident you’ll feel.
- Smile – Simple but effective. A smile makes you feel better, lifts your mood and that of people around you … and it’s infectious.
- Make a list of things you are GOOD at doing – When we are lacking in confidence we tend to focus on our mistakes and weaknesses. Make a list of all the things you have achieved and are proud of, it doesn’t matter how small an achievement, write it down. Keep looking at your list as a reminder of how FABULOUS you really are…. and remember to keep adding to your list.
Well thank you so much for reading this far and I hope my tips are of help to you. I would love for you to comment below and tell me what helps you to boost your self-confidence and also what struggles you may have.
I look forward to reading your comments.