Today I’m going to share with you a super quick tip on how you can boost your confidence by creating a mantra.
How many times has your confidence held you back from doing something you really want to do? Maybe you would love to change your career, go to that party that everyone is raving about OR maybe you want to ask a special someone out on a date.
Then a little voice inside your head starts to say “I’m not good enough,” “I’m too shy” OR “who am I to think that gorgeous guy/girl will want to go out with me”?
Does this sound familiar?
Well, did you know that we have thousands of thoughts going through our mind everyday and most of them are subconscious? We don’t even know what we’re thinking half of the time and I can tell you that many of our thoughts are not helpful at all.
Our thoughts can sabotage our plans and affect our confidence.
So here’s a little tip
Start by becoming aware of your THOUGHTS. Ask yourself are they positive or negative? What are you actually saying to yourself?
“Be careful how you are talking to yourself because YOU are listening.” ~ Lisa M Hayes
Here’s the good news
Our thoughts can easily be changed.
“It’s only a thought and a thought can be changed.” ~ Louise Hay
So if you find yourself thinking a negative thought, flip it around and change it into a positive one.
A few years ago my son was feeling very nervous about an upcoming interview and was lacking in confidence. He kept on saying “I’m rubbish at interviews”.
Now if you go into an interview thinking that you are rubbish, guess what? You will be rubbish.
This is because your thoughts and feelings affect your confidence and you’ll actually start to believe what you’re telling yourself. This then affects your whole demeanour and how you present yourself AND affects your performance too.
SO this is what we did … we flipped his thought around and changed it into something positive. “I am brilliant at interviews!”
When choosing a positive mantra, make sure that you:
- Start with the words I am or I can.
- Use the present tense
- Affirm what you want.
For Example: I am good enough, I can do it, I am going to ask ……. to go to the movies.
You’ll find that a positive mantra immediately shifts your MINDSET to a more confident and positive one.
My son rocked his interview by the way and he got the job. (Yay!)
So next time those negative thoughts pop into your mind, say a positive mantra to yourself, then say it again … and again! In fact say it whenever you need a confidence boost.
Try it, it really works!
I’ll be back soon with another super quick confidence tip.
Bye for now.